There are ads everywhere showing what we believe to create attraction. A lot of times the images shown is of a thin woman with the right proportions and  a man with a defined physique. 

A lot of people say that looks make one attractive, others say that it is personality that provides such quality. While the common belief is that for there to be a high chance in relationships,  there has to be a mutual attraction, the belief of what provides that quality differ.

The fact of the matter is looks do matter. But looks is not what many people consider them to be. A lot of people think that looks are height, facial structure and other genetically determined traits. Take a look at Morris Chestnut. A lot of women swoon over him at least in the movies he plays. He has a genuine smile and he has good body language. Now imagine him with a foul attitude and a hunch over stiff body language and he is not so attractive. A good example is Chris Brown. A lot of females swooned over him until he made a very big mistake.  His life went down quick as a result.

Now men, think about Salma Hayek. Now imagine her walking like a gorilla. Not so attractive is she?

The Secret of Attraction is that it is not what you have, but what you do with what you have. A lot of people who struggle in relationships blame their genes. Interestingly enough, there are a good number of people who have the perfect body, face, and a lot of physical things going for them yet they struggle in relationships. Meanwhile, there are people who are not so well off physically and they are thriving in relationships with people who are physically attractive.

Men, have you seen that woman who was technically “hot” but for some reason, you weren’t all that impressed with her. You thought she had a pretty face and a pretty body, but something was missing. What about that fat or otherwise not so hot lady that you were for some reason attracted to.

A person’s beliefs, outlook, memories, and thoughts emanate from his or her being. This would explain vibes. You get a feel of everything about that person the moment you meet that person.

Attraction is a lot different from pre-conceived ideas. While there are pretty faces, there are ugly expressions that ruin the whole thing. Being attractive means you know who you are and what you stand for and that you will be true to yourself.